That’s the title of John Hawkins post which I’ll link to at the end of my post. I just wanted to give my take and experience using these techniques.
Let me start first with the title “5 Keys…”. I’m glad he used the term Keys and not Secrets. I hate it when I see articles that say the “5 Secrets to…” whatever. There are no secrets leading a happy and successful life. The ways to lead that kind of life are well-known, well published, have been around for centuries and are tried and tested – they work! I think the idea of using “Secrets” in articles like this, is to make you think the author has something new that only they know – it’s a hook to get you in. That’s why I like “Keys” instead. That indicates to me that these are ordinary things that anybody can use. Like “Keys to Success”. And the good news about Keys is there is a Master Key – perseverance! Just don’t ever quit – ever!
Take time to think about what you really want. This is where you must start! Go somewhere quiet, alone and schedule lots of free time so you won’t be interrupted – your planning the rest of your life! But where do I start? – I want everything!
There are a couple of techniques you can try but let’s start with an easy one. Remember, as you try these techniques, don’t hold back and let the sky be the limit.
Write down a list of things you’d like said about you at your funeral – This is how you’d like to be remembered. It can give you some insight into what matters the most to you in life.
Think about the things you loved to do as a kid; the things you hated for your parents to interrupted you for dinner; the things you just couldn’t wake up in the morning and get going on – these are your passions.
This next bit is extremely important. Be crystal clear and exact in what you want. I can’t stress this enough. Hazy or fuzzy goals don’t work. You have to know precisely what you want in life. Only then can you truly start focusing on it and seeing results. If possible get pictures or posters to put on you wall to illustrates what you’re aiming for.
Get some accountability going. Unless you’re a very committed and focused person, you may need some help staying on course to get where you want to go. If you decide you need a family member or friend to confide in to help keep you focused, make sure it’s someone you really trust and who is a positive person. Part of this process is going to involve goal setting and goal achieving – two of my passions – and for me that’s all I need. I make goals my task master and I do everything I can to please my master – me!
Get out of your comfort zone and face fear. I love that word fear now. Fear used to hold me back from doing all sorts of things in life. I’d think about doing this or that but my mind would say, hang on, “I’m afraid” this could happen or what about that? Of course those things never happened and I held myself back. Now I use that word “Fear” as a challenge to myself. Whenever my mind says “I’m afraid” this will happen, I now say “Right, that’s what I’m going to do – damn the fear”.
Likewise getting out of your comfort zone. Make this one of your new mantras, “Never pass up the opportunity to try something new”. This challenges you, makes you grow, learns new skills and makes you stronger!
Chart your progress. This goes along with accountability. How do you know if you’re getting ahead if you don’t keep track? I use goals to keep track of my progress and I set clear goals with time limits to accomplish them. For example, save x amount of money by x date or lose x amount of weight by x date. Clear, precise goals with deadlines. I love checking them off my list. It keeps my master happy – me!
Create new habits. Habits are the things you do unconsciously as in not thinking about them. Obviously then what you want is good habits and not bad habits. What I found works for me though is not saying I’m going to stop doing this or that. That seemed negative to me and was denying me something I’d had for years. What I found worked was creating a new habit or habits and worked on that till it crowded out the old bad habits. I think it’s said you have to do your new habit 30 days in a row for it to take effect and that’s been my experience.
Remember, there are no secrets only keys and the master-key is perseverance! Never, every give up!
Good luck in 2016 and I hope you have a happy and prosperous year!
Here’s a link to John’s original article.
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